How do you find balance between work and family?

Family and Work: You can find a balance

To put family and career demands in perspective, realize that some trade-offs are necessary and the balance will be tipped unevenly at times.

Here are four tips to help you stay sane:

1. Don’t aim for perfect balance. Set your priorities, but realize they’re likely to change. Adjust accordingly, making decisions on the basis of whatever issues demand your attention most immediately. Ask yourself: “What will happen if I don’t take care of this issue at work? Is this home activity a must-do, a should-do or just a nice thing to do?”

2. Avoid guilt. Don’t beat yourself up over that extra bit of time you spend at work. Feeling guilty won’t get you anywhere. Likewise, don’t feel remorse if you must leave work on time for an important family event. Take stock of your expectations for yourself and your family.

3. Establish family rituals. They don’t have to be elaborate. Comfortable routines organized around mealtime, bath time and bed time can add security to your family.

4. Be at home even when you’re on the road. For example:
• Make a video or audio tape of your child’s favorite story.
• Leave notes around the house.
• Cook and freeze special meals.
• Call home every day at a set time.
• Send letters and postcards.

Source: Care Packages for the Home, by Barbara Glanz. ISBN 0-8362-6834-2.
Published by Andrews McMeel Publishing.