Do you do what’s necessary AND sufficient in your marriage?

Married couples may go through necessary and sufficient conditions.  One or both of them may be doing what’s necessary. Staying in the relationship is necessary to keep the marriage alive. But even though staying in a situation may be necessary, it may not be sufficient to keep the marriage alive. If you know that the right thing to do is to keep your marriage alive, then you will do what is also sufficient, which is to love and respect each other without becoming intolerant towards the other person.

 

Often, one spouse may not do what is necessary because the other spouse is not doing what is sufficient to sustain the relationship. This is apparent when one spouse leaves the household because the other spouse is not showing love or respect. You may also notice couples doing only what is necessary and not doing what is sufficient when a spouse just stays in the Status Quo because they know it’s the only way to keep the marriage alive. However, they may be harboring ill-will towards the other spouse. As such, not showing love or respect. In order for a marriage to be alive and vibrant, both partners must do what is necessary AND sufficient.

 

If the marriage goes south, it is the partner’s fault that didn’t do what was necessary and it’s the partner’s fault that didn’t do what was sufficient. Of course, marriage is not all that important to a lot of people. We all hear of celebrities getting married one month and getting divorced the next. When we become desensitized to marriage and it becomes a byword, then it may not be all that important to do what’s necessary OR what’s sufficient.